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Fear Busters for Clutter

               Ruth's living room

               Ruth's living room

More and more it looks to me like our clutter is a result of fear. Fear that we might need that box of doorknobs, fear that we are giving away something that has monetary value, and fear that we're going to forget the sweet memories that seem to be attached to particular items. Here are the top 3 statements I hear from people that keep them stuck in fear and clutter.

1. “I might need this someday.”

This is the rallying cry that keeps us overwhelmed and mired in our stuff. This is the statement that keeps towers of margarine tubs and stacks of unread magazines in homes. If you are ready to shed some stuff, rather than “I might need this someday”, consider the question “If I let this go, what’s the worst thing that could happen?”

2. “This might be worth some money.”

This can be true, but the majority of the time we assume items have a monetary value that they don’t.  Even when there is potential cash to be made, we never get around to researching the value and then finding the best marketplace. If you really believe the record albums are worth some money then you have to put the time and energy into selling them. Obviously, you won't get the payoff if you continue to leave them in the basement.

3. “I feel guilty about letting this go.”

We develop emotional attachments to stuff and that can make it hard to let go of even when we don’t really want them anymore. Maybe you have your grandmother's china hutch, an expensive pair of shoes that don't fit, or boxes of your children's art projects. If you are ready to consider letting these items go, here are some helpful strategies:

  • re-gift the set of dishes to someone you know will want them
  • take a photo of the dining room table as a proxy for the table
  • write about how you feel when you see the vases
  • make a quick piece of art to honor the emotions you feel when you look at the painting
  • my personal favorite, wear the dress one last time and savor its farewell tour

 

Noticing the fear chatter in your head while you're sorting through your clutter can be interesting, but you don't need to believe it... just because you think it. Simply continue to deal with your clutter, soon the sense of relief and peace will feel stronger than the fear. Keep moving forward and let me know if you want help.

 

October is ADHD Awareness Month

I am going to be on TV!! Excited and maybe a little scared to be seen by lots of people...but I would love it if you would watch Channel 5's Better Kansas City on Monday, September 25th. I'll be on sometime from 9:00-10:00 am.

October is ADHD Awareness month so I thought I would share a few strategies that seem to work well with my clients especially those who have ADHD.

  • The best place to begin your decluttering project is the place that feels the easiest to begin. Isn't that cool! This might be a corner of your kitchen counter, a junk drawer or one shelf of a bookcase. So this means don't start with the stuff that feels emotionally difficult like old family photos or heirlooms.The big point here, just start easy.
  • Schedule your decluttering sessions. Once you put these short sessions (25 minutes at a time) in your calendar, recruit some friendly accountability. Text a friend your intentions, ask them to check-in with you to see how it's going.
  • Complete tasks completely. Notice the tasks you engage in and see if you can complete them more fully. For example, consider that putting clothes away is part of the task of doing laundry. Wiping the kitchen counter is part of the task of making a sandwich. Putting your car keys in the same spot each time you come home is part of your coming back home routine. No question, this is the #1 way to stop creating new piles of clutter.

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