And yet it seems that's what I expected. The new cute coat, big house or upgraded I-Phone would fill a longing...make me feel like enough.
But bless me for trying. It's understandable that I got confused since my brain delivered a bump of feel-good dopamine when I purchased something. And bravo to the sophisticated marketing gurus who have spent the past 70 years getting better and better at convincing us that things make us whole, beautiful, popular, acceptable, trendy, even lovable.
We have been conditioned to look to things to make us feel safe, peaceful and content. For those who see behind the curtain, it's clear that we are looking in the wrong place.
A world of stuff will never be able to fill that space of wondering what we're doing here. What our purpose is. How to feel content, peaceful and a sense of enough...the existential puzzle of life.
I've looked in the wrong places plenty of times, accumulating things that can't possibly fill that space.
Now that I can see the things aren't the thing, I buy less and let go of more. I spend time being quiet in order to hear the next easy, step forward.
What's emerging is more self-acceptance, gratitude, love and deep desire to be helpful.
What's a way forward for you? What can you let go of? What can you do do more of? Where is your true refuge?
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I feel grateful to have you there...I appreciate your attention and desire to understand.
Thank you ever so much,
Do you wonder how you can show your love and appreciation during the holidays, without buying so much stuff? Consider alternatives to clothes, housewares, and electronics. We’ve all been in the position of receiving gifts we won’t use (gravy boats) or don’t want (sparkly Santa socks), but feel stuck with the gift because we don’t want to appear ungrateful. There are lovely ways to let others know you’re thinking about them AND skip the mall. Kiva is one of my favorites and is highly rated by the detail-oriented folks at Charity Navigator, an organization whose mission is to, “guide intelligent giving.” Kiva is a micro-lending charity with networks around the world to support small business owners needing no-interest loans to create or build a business. I have been loaning small amounts of money to this organization for over 10 years and have let my money ride from one loan to the next; as one business pays me back, I choose and invest the same money with another small business. Kiva's mission is to connect people through lending to alleviate poverty. I appreciate that the focus is to help people, to help themselves, there is beauty and dignity in this model. Learn more about how it works go to their website, http://www.kiva.org/
Over the next several months I am exchanging coaching with a woman who is helping me dive deeper into my creativity and I am helping her create a peaceful office/studio space.
Our conversation last week was about “space”. She is from the worlds of theater, dance, and music where performing space is sacred, which is so lovely and prompted me to consider how I can create sacred spaces in my home.
She also encouraged me to see space much more broadly than rooms in my house. Which has me noticing all kinds of spaces in my yard, in my desk, in my cupped hand, even my ear, (I may have just gone too far for some of you), but this noticing has truly expanded my perspective.
So anyway, I am now tuned-in to space as a much broader concept and am going to continue to play with the idea, and have started posting photos of peaceful spaces on facebook.
Join me if you'd like: https://www.facebook.com/yourpeacefulspace/ Tag with #mypeacefulspace