I've been out of commission for several weeks and in my downtime I've noticed a couple of things:
Sometimes I see myself as a self-improvement project; and
Sometimes I outsource my power and wisdom.
Advice on Facebook, magazine covers, TV, YouTube videos, from friends and colleagues rolls by.
I read about what foods to eat, how to schedule time, what to wear, how to advance in a career, how to be in close relationships, on and on and on...
It seems my self-improvement tendencies can become a full time obsession.
Sometimes I grasp. Grasp at the new and improved version of myself. And while changing my own behaviors in order to live a healthier, more spiritual and expansive life is cool...the notion that I need to FIX myself, and perhaps that FIX comes from someone else, doesn't feel enlivening or true.
What's it like for you? Do you feel different when you approach behavior change from a place of internal motivation and nudges...rather than look to an expert for correction?
Maybe it's helpful to recognize that we can be our own behavioral experts. Perhaps we don't need to outsource our wisdom or look to someone else for answers... AND, we've all had the positive experience of an objective partner who will offer new information, reflections and accountability.
So here's my 2-cents if you're considering behavior change:
You can become the expert on how you best learn and integrate new knowledge.
You have your own wisdom and sometimes a coach can help you see it more easily.
One size does not fit all...we respond to support depending on our specific learning history and perspective.
Find a coach who does not position themselves as your savior or guru, but who walks along side and offers support when you ask.
Let me know what you think.